It seems that most on yourespace are sociable, friendly people, so not everyone can relate to having constant difficulties with the opposite sex. I will admit, I have A LOT of social issues- I'm very obsessive, abrasive at times, and even confrontational. I always have a serious look on my face, so people are led to believe that I'm harbouring anger.

Why do I fly off at the handle when I hear girls talk about looks all the time? Because, in my senior year of high school, I was number three in my class and one of the smartest people at my school, but I was rejected by eight girls for prom because they were more interested in having a pretty boy. It's not easy watching other guys get girls effortlessly because of their looks and have to be constantly reminded of why I'm single. Do I think it's fair? No. Why should it come easy for some people, but others have to struggle? And a lot (not all) of hot-looking men know their sex appeal with garner them any girl they want, so they are oftentimes narcissistic, cocky, and even rude to women. They believe that if one girl rejects them, a thousand more will be waiting in the wings.

What does shallowness epitomize? Judging other people on things they can't control. I'm sure most guys didn't ASK to be born with their looks, and something you have to luck into just doesn't seem a fair standard to judge someone on. I acknowledge this, which is why I don't judge people based on looks. I ask shallow people (men, too)- how would you feel if someone judged you on something you couldn't control and isolated you because of it?

I know everyone, including myself, is shallow to an extent. I also know there has to be SOME physical attraction in a relationship, but if we carry it to the point where we simply won't date anyone who's not hot looking, it's called being truly shallow. Everyone deserves a chance, and I feel people should give more of them. You may not find a guy or girl fantastic-looking from the off, but if you just give them the chance to show you what great people they are, you may come to like them in the long-run. I'm not asking people to date hideous, grotesque-looking members of the opposite sex, but to at least have reasonable expectations that most people have at least a chance of meeting.

I'll put an end to it here. Why am I bitter- because all I've had the misfortune of knowing are shallow, shallow girls. There weren't even that many hot guys at my high school, so it's like they were saving themselves for hot guys in college. It's really a disgusting thing to have to watch. If I honestly believed women could see past looks, I would talk to more of them. Yea, I've seen average looking guys with girls, but they obviously have a charisma or something else that I lack in. I've been single my whole life, I'm bitter as hell, and it's hard for me to entertain the notion that not every girl only dates men for their looks.

That guy's a jerk, don't worry.  You look fine :o)